Index | Defeating Defeatism | Calm | Regaining Enthusiasm | Limits | Self-Care | Conclusion ---- We must not only acquire new skills, both technical and relational, but we also have to know how to manage the emotions involved in developing activism. One of these emotions is frustration. ---- When frustration appears, it can do so silently, timidly, or abruptly, but in all its forms we should know how to understand it, embrace it, and ultimately, understand its limits and reasons. We must have the clarity to discern whether it is reinforced by activism or stems from our personal situations/moments. Dissecting which part is collective and, therefore, social to be overcome, and which part we have to manage personally is not a simple matter. Of course, there is no isolated self, but everything has its limits. All this, this task carried out without projecting that frustration, spitting it out towards the other colleagues with whom we share spaces.
Undoubtedly, together we are stronger, we endure, and we grow. But we can also be placing a heavy burden of responsibility on the collective space that belongs to us, due to personal incapacity, immaturity, or even as an unconscious control mechanism. This can drag others into an atmosphere of negativity, of "taking care" at best, and of collective paralysis at worst.
When we fill meetings with words of overwhelm, frustration, and so on, we can achieve several results: others may begin to doubt whether they are doing enough because they aren't feeling that way, they don't perceive it that way, and they are afraid to question those who do. Or perhaps guilt is directly triggered (very prevalent in societies with a Judeo-Christian culture). Should I be just as overwhelmed/frustrated? If I'm not, and I'm working patiently, does that mean I'm not doing enough? It's clear how dangerous it is to follow that line of thought, isn't it?
Mistaking collective space for a kind of pseudo-therapeutic space can lead to many misunderstandings. It can cause the space we inhabit to prioritize relationships and, therefore, invisible hierarchies based on who can accumulate "social capital," who knows how to cultivate these relationships and promote their status within the group, and so on. While this undoubtedly has its weight and intrinsic value, it shouldn't be the group's main focus if the established objectives are different. The organization and achievement of collective goals can become secondary. Perhaps not explicitly stated, but that's how reality is perceived.
Of course, it's not about living as if there were no problems or areas for improvement. The point is that by collectively sharing our stress and frustration, we can drag others down with us. But we can also overcome it collectively. How we communicate and manage it, both individually and collectively, is crucial and carries weight that we cannot underestimate or ignore.
Learning to manage certain situations means learning to accept their magnitude and limitations. It also means accepting mistakes and errors, and accurately assessing their boundaries. It means taking risks on something that doesn't turn out as expected and accepting it in order to learn and know how to let go. If your proposal isn't approved, put its importance into perspective and don't get bogged down in every detail, every comma, every step. Start by acknowledging that perhaps it won't carry much weight in the medium and long term; that it won't be the deciding factor, trusting that perhaps others are right and we're wrong. And move forward.
Defeating defeatism
The culture of defeat, not just the "no future" mentality, has swept us away and has been readily embraced by the dominant cultural and economic system. It can permeate us to such an extent that it can even be mistaken for a false illusion of "doing something," despite lacking any strategy, as something opposed to defeatism. But it can become a chimera that ultimately explodes into a thousand different forms of defeatism, which will eventually lead us to a standstill of frustration. And from there, it's difficult to escape.
The calm
In a dictatorship of immediacy, perhaps we must reclaim calm and tranquility. This is part of resisting the dominant culture; it's essential when making decisions, questioning, and responding. And this shouldn't be confused with paralyzing everything or stifling the efficiency expected of a collective and revolutionary response. Life doesn't stop. We never cease to be something like "multitaskers" (whether we like it or not). Even though it's such a fashionable term in some productivist circles, we never stop being sisters, friends, mothers, daughters; we work/study or are part of various collective spaces. We assign ourselves and others assign us tasks in these multifaceted roles.
Speed and urgency can be imposed by circumstances, colleagues, or self-imposed. But conveying what we consider extremely urgent without pausing to consider whether we are passing on our own stress (which we haven't been able to manage) can only be an attack on the very foundation of collective serenity.
These rhythms of unhealthy "productivity" cannot be transferred to spaces of militancy.
Of course, sometimes there are urgent matters, but when " everything " is urgent, it becomes pointless and inefficient, and I would even say it ends up being unhealthy and leading, once again, to frustration. It's a sign that something is wrong. And we must be clear that responsibility and commitment to the revolution are forever. And rushing can make us stumble over every stone.
Regaining hope
We must rediscover our enthusiasm without falling into the trap of thinking "everything will be alright." We can accept frustration and moderate our self-imposed demands. We must learn to recognize our limitations, both personal and collective, as well as those imposed by circumstances; without letting that become an easy excuse, a pretext for shirking responsibility, or a shield to justify our broken promises and lack of concern for the community.
But above all else we must feel a certain enthusiasm, recognizing and valuing the path we have traveled.
Is it difficult to feel enthusiastic on a path filled with meetings, in a dense training program, while learning or having a debate/meeting? Yes, perhaps. Or we can consider how we experience it, or how we build it for ourselves. Making that path more pleasant and enjoyable, without projecting all those frustrations. Without living in constant group conflict. But deep down, it's also strange to always be stressed, worried, with a frown on our faces. Building all those moments, those steps, and imbuing them with a certain enthusiasm (once we accept that things won't go as planned, acknowledging that there may be some minor frustrations along the way) has a certain liberating quality.
The limits
It's essential to understand the depth of this interplay of light and shadow. Accepting the shadows, the frustration, the denial, and so on, must serve to highlight the light, the hope, and the energy to move forward. If this isn't the case, we urgently need to rethink our path.
The spaces in which we are active should have clear limits.
To make it simple, even if it means simplifying, here are some examples:
Is it a space created around a campaign? It has its limits and specific objectives; there's no point in extending them beyond that. It can have a beginning and an end, a closure (although it may later be reconfigured in other spaces).
Is this a political/trade union organization? We have to accept that it's a long road and that the levels of involvement, preparation, etc., will fluctuate (it will fluctuate, and knowing how to adapt to each moment is a primary task).
And just as in the collective, in the individual, the rhythms are different. Our lives are different. Whether we're 20 or 60, recognizing these diverse needs and paces (in others and in ourselves) is essential. Not as a desire we want to achieve, but as a material reality that must be incorporated into our analyses to refine our intervention, take care of ourselves, and be effective.
Just like campaigns, organizations, and relationships, hope must also be built and nurtured. As revolutionaries, we must have the hope and the certainty that what we do has great potential. That we can recognize both the advances and the setbacks, knowing how to measure the overall impact of both.
The care
When we talk about limits, we must also talk about care, understood with a perverse "what about me?" approach (never expressed that way, of course). Care is either approached from a collective perspective, that is, with the common good in mind, or it becomes just another outlet for the base individual passions to which neoliberalism always leads us. And this has been used both for that purpose and to play the victim and manipulate the collective through blackmail and the use of "pain" as a disabling factor for mature and honest political debate. This hijacks the entire healthy process of dispute, trapping it in the intricacies of "forms," which are often hierarchically structured, with some able to lose them and others not, hiding behind that "pain." As a warning, perhaps, when we hear too many "but I...", alarm bells should ring. Care, yes, but with the collective space at the center, survival, and always "we" before "I."
Conclusion
To be able to imagine another world in the near future, without being overwhelmed by the complexity of everything around us. Because history proves it. There are changes, there have been changes, and there will be more.
To be protagonists, as a revolutionary society under construction, depends on reinforcing and building that hope, and overcoming defeat and frustration. Ultimately, it means moving forward and building from where we stand.
Although frustration will always be present, it's essential to consider deconstructing it along our path. Because our lives and our struggles depend on it. And one without the other is meaningless.
Ignoring these issues, along with training and more theoretical debates, leads us, we believe, to repeat habits without critically examining them. And at the same time, it demonstrates that we have the privilege of entrenching ourselves on certain topics, barely building anything, because first we need to have "x" element perfect. And with what we have before us, we cannot afford this. Too many lives, present and future, are at stake.
O. Neto
https://regeneracionlibertaria.org/2026/03/24/deconstruyendo-la-frustracion/
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Link: (en) Spain, Regeneracion: Deconstructing Frustration - Activism requires personal and collective construction. This construction is a process, always unfinished. By EMBAT (ca, de, fr, it, pt, tr)[machine translation]
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